There is so much that happens before HR can even begin to look at your resume, call you in for an interview, and tell you whether or not you got the job. The job search can sometimes turn out to be a long, difficult, and often lonely road. Remember though HR is composed of people just like you and me, but let’s be real not everyone is cut out for the job search. In fact falling victim to these can make HR’s job so much easier. So, here are “Six ways to stall your job search” and why it might happen..
1. Being Passive
Acquired needs theory can be one explanation for why people may not jump on an opportunity. Like the article said “some of the worst things a job seeker can do are staying home, avoiding networking or just not following through.” Aside from not wanting to go outside of ones comfort zone, how motivated you are can play into being passive. There are three categories under the Acquired Needs Theory that looks at motivation. These are people who are achievement oriented, authority oriented, and affiliation oriented(http://www.strategies-for-managing-change.com/acquired-needs-theory.html).When one doesn’t have a strong achievement-based motivation you get people who won’t do anything.
However, being passive can also be a coping behavior. Eventually, the amount of times you are turned down can make one feel inferior, resulting in submissive behavior.
We can also explore attachment styles. Avoidant attachment style is where there is a suppression of needs due to repeated rejection. So while you need to network or you need to go to an event, constant rejection (or lack of concrete results) can make you not want to go. Also with this attachment style it can be difficult to form relationships which may make following up, or even networking harder.
2. Jumping to Conclusions
Being in an unfamiliar position such as without a job, and facing the unknown can be scary. As humans we do not like the idea of not having control over certain aspects of our lives. The Attribution Theory looks at why people make excuses. Either getting the same result over and over again or honestly believing that there is nothing one can do will decide how we make excuses. “An important assumption of attribution theory is that people will interpret their environment in such a way as to maintain a positive self-image” (http://education.calumet.purdue.edu/vockell/edPsybook/Edpsy5/edpsy5_attribution.htm). This is exactly what happens when we jump to conclusions as to why we won’t get a job or shouldn’t even bother apply.
3. Holding Out for the Perfect Job
Its hard knowing what you want and not getting it. So being presented with a job that is far from what you expected can create dissonance. It is much easier to turn away when we are uncomfortable instead of re-evaluating the situation and seeing it isn’t so bad. Like the article said “Take the right-now job, excel at it and keep networking until you find the dream job.”
4. Being Inflexible
Relocating can be a big request however it could end up being for the best. Don’t be afraid to let go of the stable. Sometimes we can get tunnel vision and not look at the big picture. Also, companies are starting to include several benefits outside of salary, so don’t be afraid to negotiate.
5. Making It All About You
Don’t give into your ego. While you want to make it about you, you can’t. You have to be the best fit for a company otherwise they won’t hire you. So put your pride elsewhere and show them how you can make their goals a reality. Besides if you find the right company, your sense of identity will increase regardless. Pride is just another form of identity, it means you like yourself enough to boast about your skills, goals, and values. Finding the right job will have you feeling fulfilled and satisfied. So, make it about how you fit with them instead of how they fit with you.
6. Having a Cynical and Negative Attitude
Don’t internalize the rejections. It is all apart of the process, and it is so easy to forget what we are going up against. Also, the more things become internalized the more we begin to portray those feelings and thoughts, sometimes without even knowing it. Attitude-behavior consistency looks at when attitude and behavior will line up (http://changingminds.org/explanations/theories/attitude_behavior_consistency.htm). With continued exposure to rejection, it can become internalized and a part of one’s identity. Actions and behavior will then appear cynical and negative without you even realizing.
Trust me, I know job searching sucks, and in these times it is definitely not easy. There are so many other factors that can stall your job search but you have to push through. Even though I have until next year, I have been exploring. Definitely don’t wait until last-minute because job searching is a job in itself.. So, happy hunting!